The issue with the Apple TV and the remote is not easily solved by just using another remote. You ultimately still need the Siri remote in arms reach. The reason being that the TV button, which is used for some important things, only works with Bluetooth. The other buttons can be handled with IR. Only Apple would be that idiotic. Why in the @%@%#$ would they make one button Bluetooth only, and one that is important. Thankfully, you can live without it in day to day operation. But worse than that, the trackpad is completely proprietary and some apps stupidly use it. Philo, for example, uses a down swipe to access info during playback, and that is where the Closed Caption menu is, record, etc. They could have quite easily coded it to work with the down arrow, but no... the developers used the down swipe. How about make it work with both? And the remote lacks very many buttons that could possibly be remapped. So the ATV4K remote situation is really a hot mess. But that is Apple. And some people like it... more power to them. For me, I buy a $180 streaming box and use a $16 Walmart IR remote.
I'm not interested in any of the fancier more expensive remotes because I'm only controlling a streaming box. I've got several that cost as much as the ATV4K, sitting in the closet. I actually configured a Roku remote to work with the Apple TV and that is not bad, but there is some quirkiness and you need to keep a Roku around to program some of it.